Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Is it a sin to not be a homemaker?

*Note: Please read the following post with an open heart and mind, desiring to learn from God's Word. Please know that I'm not trying to be judgemental towards or look down upon the women who are not keepers at home(I have many family members, friends, and dear sisters in Christ who are not homemakers), but rather, I am seeking to edify them through God's Word and His precepts.


So, do I believe it's a sin to not be a homemaker? Well, first please allow me to begin this post by asking the following questions:
  • Do you believe it is a sin to murder?
  • Do you believe it is a sin to lie?
  • Do you believe it is a sin to disobey your parents?
  • Do you believe it is a sin to gossip?
  • Do you believe impurity is a sin?

I'm sure you answered yes to each of the above listed questions. And, why did you do so? Because in God's Word, He clearly commands us to not partake in any of those actions. We believe doing so is a sin, because we believe that disobeying any of Christ's commands is a sin. Well, here's another command in Scripture: Women are to be homemakers (Titus 2:5, 1 Timothy 5:14). Why then are women suddenly up in arms over the fact that not being a homemaker is a clear sin? Because they have been influenced by the heresies of satanic feminism and its folleys. The Lord's command to not murder doesn't change just because there may be a huge number of murders taking place. Likewise, just because our culture has turned its back on God, and women are now flocking to the workforce, doesn't mean that not being a homemaker is all of the sudden ok. It is a sin to disobey any one of God's commands. Therefore, it is a sin to not be a homemaker.


  1. Hi Rebekah,

    I recently sent you an email, I would love to hear back from you when you have time. I wanted to respond to this post. I agree that the Bible states that wives are to be homemakers. The Bible is explicit on what we as Christians are called to do and not do. So, yes a married woman who puts anything before her family whether it is volunteering or working is going against God's commandment. But the scripture never says, keep the home and don't earn an income or volunteer 3 hours a day.

    I do have to ask you how you feel about scenarios that do not match with your situation?

    Is the single mother that works all day but provides a safe clean home for her family, tucks her kids in at night, spends her weekends with her children and most importantly teaches them about Jesus? Is she sinning because she is not in her home 100% of the time? She is not a homemaker in the same sense of somebody who has a husband that works. Another example is a grown daughter whose parent's can't afford to support grown children, she follows the Bible's commandment for virgins (I Cor 7:32-35) and she honors her parents but she works and pays her bills. Is she sinning? I am not trying to argue with you I just want to challenge you to look beyond what this Biblical command may look like in your life. There are millions of women who have the right heart of a homemaker whose situation is different from yours or mine. So many verses speak to How God isn't concerned with our works but with our hearts and motives. (Prov 16:1-3, Eph 2:8, Rom 9:32) I really feel that this is not an issue or women working because other women work its an issue as to how we as Christians can maintain right motives despite the circumstances. Thanks for allowing me to share my thoughts.

    In Him,

  2. I think that I should have prefaced my comment with this question? What do you feel defines a woman has a homemaker?

    I realized that my comment makes the assumption that I understand your definition of homemaker and I have never asked your opinion. Sorry about that!!

  3. Kyla,
    If I may, I would like to share a few thoughts regarding your comment. I personally don't believe it's wrong for a women to be out of the home at all, but her primary responsibility should be directed towards the home. If a women sent her young children off to school and daycare, they would inevitably receive wrong beliefs/ideas and influences. It would then be VERY hard for her to come home to "undo" what they have been taught! Sadly, because of the socialistic school systems and many unbelievers, this would most likely be the case. If a family desires to raise their children up for the glory of God, and give them a Biblical worldview, they usually choose to homeschool, because it just so hard to do it otherwise! Now, as I have already stated, it doesn't mean she is ALWAYS in the home, because that would be torture! It is just important to be productive and train your children as the Bible commands, which makes sense to do at home! The home is the key for discipleship.

    I hope this may have helped some... and I hope you will think and pray through this, asking God to reveal things to you through Scripture. (if you haven't already)
    Blessings through Christ,

  4. Kyla,

    If you don't mind, I'm going to make my response into a whole post, in hopes that it will be a help to others who may have the same questions.

  5. Rebekah,

    I will look forward to reading your post.


    I appreciate your comments. I actually agree with everything that you said. I was homeschooled for 12 years and am prayerfully open to doing so with my future children. I agree that there is nothing that compares to a mother being home with her family and children.

    Rebekah has stated that it is a sin not to be a homemaker. I disagree with this...It is ideal to be a homemaker but in the case of the situations I shared those individuals are not sinning b/c they are not living out a cookie cutter life. Life is hard and there are many very lonely people in the world who need Jesus. I don't think that stating we all need to be x, y and z in order to be the "right" kind of Christian is the answer. This attitude is legalistic and ignores the greatest benefit of God's love, His Grace.

    My hope is that you both meet wonderful Godly men who will provide a home for you and your children and allow you to live out your dreams. My greater hope and prayer is for your hearts to be open to God's calling. Whether its to be a wife and Mother or something beyond your wildest dreams. His calling is different for all of His followers.

  6. Hey, Kyla! I already told you in an e-mail that I would respond to this first comment of yours in its own post, but I wanted to respond to your second and third comments here (I may address them in the upcoming post as well).

    Please don't apologize; that's quite allright! A woman who is a homemaker (or keeper at home) finds her "career", if you want to call it that, inside the home-not outside of it. She is within the home (not completely 100% each day, every day, of course!), performing her homemaking duties, helpmeet duties, and motherhood duties(i.e. caring for the children, raising them up in the fear and admonition of the Lord, homeschooling, etc. etc.). A Biblical homemaker also has the opporunity to have a home business if their family needs a little more income, and if that's what her husband wishes for her to do. But the husband and father is to be the primary provider, and she is to be a homemaker, not an independant careerwoman.

    Now on to your third comment. :) First of all, how neat is is that you were homeschooled!! I am currently in the 10th grade, and have been homeschooled all my life. I love it and thank God for this blessing! :) I agree with you-God's abundant grace is SO amazing!!! Just the thought that a Holy, pure, perfect God would die a horrible death for wicked, wretched sinners is just nothing short of amazing! Praise God for His beautiful grace! First of all, I never said that the Bible says that we're to all lead cookie cutter lives!!! We're all unique, and thus all of our lives are unique. Even if all Christian women were obedient to this command, and were homemakers, their lives would still not be cookie cutter!! I know of many homemakers in my church who have very different lives, schedules, etc.! They may have the same "career" but their lives are anything by cookie cutter! Also, when did I ever talk about us striving towards being the "right" kind of Christian? I never said those words. But, if we are true Christians, then we will obey Christ's commands due to an overflow of love for Him-which is not legalism!! Sadly, so often people who are counter-cultural are seen today as being legalistic, simply because they live a lifestyle that is in accordance with and obedient to God's Word, and whose lifestyles and convictions are against the flow of society. We read in God's Word, that if we love Him, we will obey His commandments. This is not legalism! This is a Christian's duty. And, you said: "I don't think that stating we all need to be x, y and z in order to be the "right" kind of Christian is the answer. This attitude is legalistic and ignores the greatest benefit of God's love, His Grace." Correct me if I'm wrong, because I may have been reading this wrong, but the way you said that made it sound almost as if you believed that it was ok to live a lifestyle that's not in accordance with His Word, simply because there is a such thing as His amazing grace. And this is simply not true. His amazing and glorious grace ought to spur us on to obey His every command with joy, happiness, eagerness, and love. And if we disobey His commands, that ought to sadden us deeply, and should drive us to repent!

    Another thing that you said is that God's calling is different for all of His followers. To a large degree, this is quite true-some people He calls to serve with their family on the mission field, others He doesn't; He calls some to have 5 children, others to have 15, some to have no biological children, but to rather adopt them all, others He calls to have no adopted children, but rather all biological, while some are called to partake in the blessing of having some biological and some adopted; some people are called to marry when they're 18, others when they're 58; some men are called to be doctors, some lawyers, some accountants, some teachers, some car dealers, some authors, some artists, etc. etc. etc. But: the Lord never calls any of His children to go against His Word and to sin!! This would be against His very nature and attributes. Why? Because He is infinitely perfect, holy, and pure, and abhors sin so much that He can't stand it or be in the prescense of it. This is why God had to send His Son to die. Therefore, knowing that, it isn't true to say that He calls some women to be independent careerwomen, and others to obey His commands and be homemakers.

    Kyla, I want to sincerely thank you for the kind words you left at the end of this comment! Those were very dear and sweet, and I thank you wholeheartedly for them!

    May the Lord richly bless you, and if you have absolutely any more questions or comments at all, please do not hesitate to e-mail them to me, or to leave them in a comment.

    In Christ alone,
    Rebekah Ann

  7. Very interesting take. Not one I would agree with entirely...but interesting none the less.


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~Rebekah S.